When Shriya and Abhinav first came to us, they were not worried about décor or music. They were thinking about their families. Both of them are from Kollam, and theirs was an intercaste destination wedding, a Christian bride and a Hindu groom, with two families who each had their own wishes for how the wedding should be done. They told us plainly that what mattered most was that nobody on either side should feel left out.
So we began by listening. We sat down with both families and went through the traditions, the concerns and the expectations on each side. We talked about the rituals, the venues, the number of guests for each day and the budget plan, which was ₹7 lakh for the whole wedding. Since this was a destination wedding, with the celebrations in Thrissur and Kochi, away from their native place in Kollam, we planned each venue and journey with extra care. Every venue we chose was chosen after those conversations, according to what the families were comfortable with. Only then did we start to build the plan.
That plan became a chart for all three days. We worked out the sangeet, the mehendi, the wedding and the reception hour by hour, with the entries, the rituals and the music marked in. Where two traditions had to share one wedding day, we left room between them, so that neither would feel rushed.
Day 1, 18 August: the sangeet. For the sangeet, we chose the Jaalam at Neelambari in Arattupuzha, Thrissur. Our team arrived at 4:30 PM for the production checks, the sound and lighting rehearsal and the artist briefing, and by 5:30 PM about 100 guests were arriving to welcome drinks and soft music, with the family greeting them. After a welcome address, the bride’s family and the groom’s family took the stage in turn, with an anchor connecting every act. There were games for the couple, then their grand dance. After that, the DJ opened the dance floor, dinner began at 9:00 PM, and the night ended at 10:30 PM with both families dancing together.
Day 2, 19 August: the mehendi. The next morning moved to Neelambari’s Koothambalam, with a smaller, calmer gathering of 30 close family and friends. Guests arrived from 9:30 AM, and after refreshments the bridal mehendi began at 10:30 AM, with family and friends having theirs applied alongside. The theme was nature and flowers, candid photographers captured the morning, and lunch followed at 1:00 PM before everyone left at 2:00 PM.
The thalikettu at Guruvayoor. One part of the wedding meant a great deal to the couple: their thalikettu at Guruvayoor temple. We arranged it as part of the plan, so the sacred moment was handled with the same care as everything else.
Day 3, 21 August: the wedding. The wedding and reception were at Ramada by Wyndham, Kochi, and the wedding was held outdoors for 100 guests. For safety, we set up a German transparent tent over the ceremony. The venue was ready by 7:30 AM, with the flowers done, the stage inspected and the sound and lighting checked. Guests arrived from 8:30 AM, and at 8:45 AM the groom walked in under a flower umbrella. At 8:50 AM the bride followed, with a thalam carried by five girls and a flower chadar, as the nadaswaram played.
The Hindu wedding began at 9:15 AM at the muhurtham, with dakshina, blessings and the exchange of garlands, followed by the main rituals with the family taking part. A Mohiniyattam performance added grace to the morning, and the ceremony ended at 10:30 AM.
The reception. We left half an hour before the reception, and at 11:00 AM guests were welcomed into a small AC hall at the same hotel. The couple made a grand entry with music and effects, and the Christian ceremony followed, with prayers, Bible readings, vows and rings, blessings and the signing of the register. Then came the candle light ceremony, the cake cutting, the toast and the kalabham charthal, the exchange of garlands and bouquets, and the couple’s first dance. Music and the first dance kept the hall lively, guests came up to meet the couple on stage, lunch was served, and after the vote of thanks the reception closed at 3:30 PM.
Everything ran to the chart. The guests arranged their own stay, so our focus stayed on the programmes.
Shriya, Abhinav and both families were happy with all three days. What we take from this wedding is that a celebration of two traditions does not need two separate events. It needs a plan that both families have heard, agreed to and can recognize themselves in, and a team that leaves enough room between the rituals for everyone to arrive on time and enjoy them.
Brought to life with care by Melodia Event Management, this three-day intercaste destination wedding reflects our commitment to blending diverse traditions into one seamless, unforgettable experience.